Many of us think that some people are just naturally gifted when it comes to pleasing women in bed, which is assumed to be the reason ladies just can’t seem to leave them, as though they are stuck with glue. But that, is certainly not true. Anyone and everyone can aquire the title ‘sex god’.
Have you heard of the 10,000-hour rule? Malcolm Gladwell, a writer for the New Yorker and best selling author wrote a book called Outliers in 2008. In the book Gladwell claims it takes roughly 10,000 hours of practice to achieve mastery in a field.
This got me thinking, how long does it take to become a master in the bedroom? Does the same 10,000-hour rule apply before you can truly call yourself a “Sex God” or a modern day Casanova?
10,000 hours might sound like a lot of time, especially for all the 5-minute men out there (being a dating coach, women tell me everything!). Let’s break this down a little. Ten thousand hours is 416 days, or 600,000 minutes, of solid in between the sheets action before you can claim to be a true sex master. Is this you? …Yeah, thought not!
Are you a ladies man?
When it comes to sex and being a ‘ladies man’, it seems some guys are just ‘naturally gifted’ with the opposite sex. They know how to talk, touch and satisfy a woman in all the right ways. But they were not born with these skills, it takes time, practice, years of experience and lots of ‘man hours’ to becomes a real lover. There are no shortcuts!
The truth is everyone can brush up on their bedroom tricks and become a better lover. Even the most skilled ‘sexperts’ know they should never stop learning new skills. So even if you think you’re God’s gift to women (that’s most men), let’s all swallow our prides and take a few keynotes.
A real sex god is not only great in bed, he is also great in the living room, in the kitchen, in the car, on the bonnet, in a park, in the restaurant toilet, everywhere!
1. Sex can happen anywhere
A real man knows that sex is not only limited to the bedroom.
Sex should have no limits when you and your partner are in the mood to get freaky. Why wait until you get home and the moment has passed? Find the closest, most private area and get it on. Women love a man who is passionate and wants them right there, right now.
The excitement of having sex in a public place will bring out both of your animalistic sides. And that is HOT!
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for directions
On one hand, women are unique and each one has different “turn-ons”. On the other hand men across the world are well known for finding it hard to ask for directions. It’s apparently some macho thing!
Men who don’t ask for directions and think women will judge their masculinity, are shooting themselves in the foot. Communication is extremely important for good sex.
Don’t forget every woman is different. Just because your ex liked having her nipples pinched, does not mean your new partner likes it too. Have you asked?
Real men are not afraid to ask questions and take directions. Ask your partner “How does this feel?” or “Do you like it when I did this?” and I guarantee she will respond well and appreciate your effort in taking an interest in satisfying her.
3. It’s not only physical
If you think it’s only physical stimulation that turns a woman on, you’re wrong! To really please a woman you must be able to stimulate her mentally as well as physically.
A man who is sweet, romantic, caring, can hold a conversation and is a gentleman inside and outside the bedroom, will satisfy her more than a man who only uses physical touch.
Touch is only one of our five main senses, make sure you stimulate them all equally.
4. There is more than just penetration
Did you know about 75% of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone? So no matter how big or small you might be, fast or slow, hard or soft or how deep you think you need to get…. You need to offer your woman more than just penetration. Don’t believe me? Ask her.
You need to start adding more foreplay into your bag of tricks, specifically oral sex. It’s a fact that most women orgasm more often and more consistently through oral sex than penetration alone. So if oral sex is not something you have done or do often, you need to start. You like it when she goes down on you, don’t you? Well so does she. Make it a priority and you’ll both be rewarded!
Another great reason to go down on your lady before intercourse is that the more stimulated she is before penetration, then the higher the chance of her hitting the
5. Take the lead
Confidence is sexy. A man who can take the lead and knows what he wants in life, in the bedroom, outside the bedroom and from his partner will be very irresistible.
Don’t wait for her to ask you for sex. Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take control of any situation and do it with class, be both gentle and rough. Get to know your lady’s likes and dislikes, tease her, play with her and when you’re ready to take it to the next level, don’t wait for her to undress herself, be a gent and help her out.
Women are turned on by a man who isn’t afraid to take the lead. Tell her what to do and take control. Just make sure you don’t become an over powering DOM and treat her like your property. Unless agreed upon, this is not OK!
6. Women love to be seduced
It doesn’t matter if it’s your first date, or you’re happily married and on your 100th date, I can guarantee that the woman you are with will want to be seduced. By seducing your lady, you make her feel wanted, and by her feeling wanted she feels sexy and confident.
Don’t be afraid to tell your lady how beautiful she looks, or express how attracted you are to her. What woman doesn’t like compliments?
When a woman feels wanted, sexy and confident then she is more likely to want-to-want you and reward you with sheet-ripping, sweat-dripping, load-screaming, leg-trembling, hair-pulling, and ass-smacking sex!
Sex is not a sin
Sex is not a dirty sin. It’s a powerful experience bringing two souls together in vibrational harmony with one another and the universe.
But, life is not just about sex. Don’t get me wrong, sex is freaking amazing. But when you connect with someone or have strong feelings, just a hug or a kiss is enough to send shivers through your spine and make you weak at your knees. No amount of time in the bedroom can beat that feeling between you and your soulmate.
Maybe you need 10,000 hours to become an expert in your career, but you don’t need that long before you’re an expert in the bedroom. The more you understand about your partner and the older you get, the more experienced you will be in different and important techniques such as seduction, oral sex, taking the lead, mentally stimulating your lady and being spontaneous when it comes to sex.
Remember, sex is meant to be enjoyable and fun. Don’t take things too seriously, and don’t worry if you’re not yet Casanova. It took him 73 years!
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